You See the Problem. They Don’t Want Help. Now What?
Watching someone you care about struggle with addiction can be heartbreaking — especially when they resist help. Whether it’s alcohol, opioids, or another substance, families often feel helpless, angry, or overwhelmed.
At Gev’s Recovery, we’ve supported countless families in navigating this exact situation. Here’s how you can take thoughtful, constructive steps to guide your loved one toward the care they need.
1. Understand That Addiction Is a Disease — Not a Choice
Addiction alters brain chemistry and decision-making. What might seem like “denial” or “stubbornness” is often a real psychological and physical dependency. This is why compassion, not confrontation, is key.
💬 “You can’t shame someone into recovery — but you can love them into it.”
2. Learn About Treatment Options
Before approaching your loved one, make sure you understand what treatment involves. In California, there are options for:
- Medical detox
- Residential rehab (inpatient)
- Outpatient programs
- Dual diagnosis treatment (mental health + addiction)
🔹 At Gev’s Recovery in Northridge, we offer customized care plans and full support from detox to aftercare.
3. Choose the Right Moment to Talk
Timing matters. Try to speak during a calm period — not during or immediately after substance use. Express your concerns from a place of care, not accusation.
Helpful phrases:
- “I’ve noticed you’ve been struggling, and I’m worried.”
- “You don’t have to do this alone — there’s help available.”
- “Can we talk about some options together?”
🛑 Avoid blaming language like “You’re ruining everything” or “You just need to get it together.”
4. Offer Specific Support
Make it easier for them to say “yes” to treatment by handling logistics:
- Research and share rehab options
- Offer to drive or accompany them
- Help with childcare or work arrangements
- Explain that treatment is confidential and judgment-free
💡 Reassure them that seeking help is not a failure — it’s a courageous decision.
5. Consider a Professional Intervention
If your loved one continues to refuse help and the situation is critical, a licensed interventionist may be able to assist. These professionals guide family-led interventions and help motivate a person to enter rehab.
At Gev’s Recovery, we can connect you with trusted interventionists in California if needed.
6. Take Care of Yourself Too
Loving someone with an addiction can take a toll on your emotional health. Don’t forget to seek support for yourself — whether through therapy, Al-Anon, or a support group.
🧠 Healing is not just for the one who’s using — it’s for everyone affected.
We’re Here When They’re Ready — Or When You Are
You don’t need to have all the answers. If you’re worried about someone you love, our team is here to talk — 100% confidential, no pressure.
📞 Contact Gev’s Recovery to learn more about how we support both individuals and families on the path to recovery.